Check out the following ways to improve your EQ at the office...
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Being busy and having a lot of work in the office that must be completed according to predetermined deadlines sometimes makes someone easily feel stressed. As a result, this affects a person's emotions. Emotions can be expressed in various ways, starting from laughing because you are happy or something is funny, gloomy because you are sad, frowning or even angry because you are annoyed about something, feeling lonely, feeling guilty, and many more.
It is very natural for someone to express their emotions. But how do you control and increase your emotional intelligence (EQ) so you don't appear 'excessive', especially at the office? Here are the tips and tricks.
1. Recognize your own emotions
This requires skills to recognize and identify what you feel. Every time these emotions appear in your mind, you must be able to capture and decipher the message you want to convey, such as guilt, sadness, anger, frustration, disappointment, etc. The conclusion is to recognize your emotions, and then describe the message you want to convey.
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2. Release Negative Emotions
So, this requires skills to identify and understand the impact or consequences of the negative emotions a person feels. For example, you must complete or repair work immediately. There must be feelings of panic, restlessness, even nervousness. All of these feelings are negative feelings. If you cannot control these negative feelings, you will likely feel stressed and even angry. Don't let your anger affect your relationship with your subordinates or superiors. The solution is to release it through techniques using your subconscious mind so that the people around you do not receive negative reactions and impacts from these negative emotions.
3. Manage your own emotions
Managing your emotions is what is meant here controlling your emotions. That's why if someone can control their emotions well, then this will help them achieve success. There are 3 steps to managing your emotions. First, appreciate and be aware of the emotional support you have for yourself. Second, know the message that emotion conveys, and convince yourself that you can successfully handle this emotion as before.
Third, be happy when you take action to address it. Always remember, that a person's ability to manage their emotions is the most important form of self-control in self-management. Because only we can regulate our own emotions, not the other way around.
4. Motivate Yourself
People who are good at self-motivation are usually productive and effective people when they do anything. That's why they have high performance in all fields. If you want to be a productive person and have high performance, manage emotions as a tool to achieve goals. Controlling yourself and your emotions is the basis for success in various fields.
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5. Recognize other people's emotions
How do you recognize other people's emotions? The answer is empathy. By having empathy for what other people feel, you can recognize other people's emotions. Try to understand others first before wanting to be understood. Mastering this skill makes us more effective in communicating with other people, and this is what is called empathetic communication.
6. Managing Other People's Emotions
If someone is skilled at managing other people's emotions, then it can be said that he has a powerful ability. Moreover, if he can optimize it. If we can master the skills of managing other people's emotions, it means we can build strong and sustainable interpersonal relationships with other people. This is the main pillar in building and nurturing relationships between individuals.
7. Motivate Others
The ability to motivate other people is another form of leadership, namely inspiring, influencing, and motivating other people to achieve common goals. Motivating other people is closely related to building close, reliable, and resilient team collaboration. Those are 7 ways to increase emotional intelligence (EQ). Apply sequentially and gradually. Hopefully, it can help you in your daily life.
Good luck!
